It is estimated that around 15% of all adults are either deaf or hard of hearing. This number shows just how little attention we’re paying to this topic. Just try to remember when was the last time you read something about deafness or persons who have trouble hearing. With this being said, it stands to reason that someone who never dated a deaf person wouldn’t know how to behave during those personal and intimate moments.
Communication is key, as it is with any other relationship or sexual encounter but here it is of utmost importance. People usually get carried away during sex and rely on cues to either stop or start something. And you can see how that could be a problem with a person who’s having trouble hearing or is completely deaf. You need to pay attention to body language and facial expressions in order to make your partner feel comfortable.
It could be a good idea to develop signals you could use, just like we have safe words, we could have safe signals. They could mean different things, all depending on what you agree upon. The good thing is that after some time, you will get to know each other and you will instinctively feel these things. So, what we’re talking about here are those awkward first sexual encounters that don’t have to be awkward at all.
If this is your first time dating a deaf person, you might think that they could be really loud during sex. This is not a rule and actually, because deaf and hard of hearing people are so conscious about how they might sound to other people they usually try to stay silent during these intimate moments. It is up to you to break the ice and set them free, if that is their desire, of course. As we already mentioned communication is key and a good, honest talk can solve a lot of these issues.
This leaves neighbors as a potential problem but in the heat of the moment, we don’t think you will give them much thought. If you have a hearing aid, having sexual intercourse may cause it to fall out. In fact, it will most likely cause it to fall out. To solve this problem we recommend you head out over to YouTube where there are dozens of videos explaining how to overcome this issue with useful tips and tricks.